I am ok with him going once a week as long as it is only guys. he doesn't drink at all and i practically never do. Would you or should I be bothered by the fact that she seems to want to go there without me? but again, i think you're in a completely different place. 1. My boyfriend M 23 is losing feelings for me F 20 and idk what to do. If your partner doesn't seem interested in having you involved in trip planning or is actively working on plans for trips without you, that could be a sign that something's going on,. i dont really know how to feel about this. He asked for nothing in return. Well, honestly, he only goes once every week-2 weeks. My husband (these days) wants M. to be happy and encourages M. to get time out doing things I love. So drinking isn't something we *enjoy* doing. xx. I have issues with my bf going to the bar because my ex is an alcoholic. I wouldn't like the kind of relationships you are talking about, being with people(men or women) that I don't know well or interact with regularly. He knew that I was not going to be hooking up with anyone. Clubs and bars are not a place for someone in a relationship unless you're there with your partner to dance, have fun, and show the world who you're deeply in love with. They have these piano bars here and my hubby and i went oncebut was not something we said, "HEY, lets go again !" 10. I do not care at all. However if he was taking his single female intern out J. the two of them for drinksI would have a problem with thatif they go to lunch I really don't mind because it is usually because they are far away from the office on a site visit and go get something to eat. I'm personally not attracted to women. It hasn't been my thing since I was about 22. what if that guy made the relationship that way and all of a sudden wants to change the game.Vice versa? I want him to be with M. because he wants to, not because he isn't allowed to go and meet anybody else. (Even if we've J. There was a promo for $5 off your next dinner if you purchased a $25 gift certificate. We purchased the gift cert from the bar so we were seated in that section. I did the club scene in college, but that kinda got out of my system too. I think that he asked that question confirms why you have your specific boyfriend and why that guy is not said boyfriend. Well, amazing how a six year old post gets a reply but upon reading, as much as six months ago someone needed clarification. And you will never lose the ones that love you. You likely question yourself asking whether it's something about you . Naturally, the latter should raise more eyebrows. First of all, guys NEED this time to well, do what guys do. If im with someone i trust fine, go have fun. The thing last time he said he wouldn't get drunk and he did. What is good for one family isn't always what's good for another. I read a story and call it. Whether they're truly checked out and just can't be bothered to end things or there's something else going on, you're likely going to have to talk about it together in order to move forward. We ended up J. being friends. A know a few guys who don't do that. Being married does not mean you are a Monk or not a part of the world. My bf WAS texting me from the bar, but that has tapered off. i have a hard time trusting he's not hooking up with another girl..i have talked to him before how i wish he would call me, but we always end up fightingwhere do i go from here..is this a big deal or something not to be concerned about. But that's J. M.! pastoralcucumbers .. My hubs knows M. well enough not to be threatened. It wasnt just that, he was a flirt. You get anxious when your boyfriend goes out because you're worried he's cheating, or that you aren't good enough and he'll find someone better. It's his choice whether he visits strip clubs, and you're also entitled to your feelings about it. We have no problem with this and neither do most of the couples among our friends. But, that's not the point of your post so I digress. Again I'm so worried. i want him >, just relax ! <3. I can tell you as a man, that he appreciates that, it shows trust, it shows that you are trying to grow in the relationship, and it shows that you love and care that he take time for himself. I always get the excuse of the phone dying or it fell but yet I can see he is online on Facebook etc it's always the weekend that his battery has died when he's out I don't blame you for stressing I have this situation every weekend it's at the point where I've had enough. So back to your question. Ask him like if he could give you some pictures of beautiful places, or video calls you so it feels like you are there together. But its not like we would go kissing others anyways but just saying Warning signs that your male partner is emotionally controlling you. So she keeps sending snapchats.. but wont text/call me. Night after Friday night, he'd ask about my week, make jokes with me during lulls in the bar rush, and never charge me for my vodka buzz. Yes I allow my husband to go out without M. no matter the gender. 2023 BDG Media, Inc. All rights reserved. Check out Romper's new video series, Bearing The Motherload, where disagreeing parents from different sides of an issue sit down with a mediator and talk about how to support (and not judge) each others parenting perspectives. He wanted to go to bars CONSTANTLY. Every hour of his free time doesn't have to be dedicated to you. Help should I stay with him or not and it has been four long years that we have been together. By all means. Boyfriends are different than husbands. Now, pull out the choke - but only three-quarters of the way - hit that button again. I have also felt the "most women are bisexual" opinion to be not true in my circles. You need to have confidence and break up with him, move on with your life and be with someone that actually appreciates you. Started February 13, By Mostly for work, like happy hours. Wind him up make him jealous. We are comfortable with each other and trust each other 100%!! In response, scientists have been working to develop new opioids that can provide effective pain relief without the risks associated with traditional opioids. I want to flirt, touch and pay lots of attention to him. I had an ex bf from years ago. "And if . wha NC for 4 months, ex didn't send me a text call or Anything for my Bday, tog She only talks, or texts in response to my call/text. He has fun and I know he isn't sleeping around with his female friends when he goes. Family events are typically things that the two of you should attend together, especially if you're in a long-term, committed relationship. We agreed that going out alone with single people of the opposite sex is giving off the wrong impression that there might be something going on even though there isn'tso we don't do it. Did he actually love me? You know honestly im sure it depends on the person. You have a good one it appears. Eventually I broke down, had a hard time with it, and she dumped me. I love him but he doesn't seem to put any effort. Although it's good for your relationship for both your and your partner to do things without the other person, some of the specific things that they (or you) do alone can actually give you some insight into how they're feeling about the relationship. It is a neighborhood place that serves beer and wine.. but also burgers and stuff. A spouse can interact with the world and other people. I do what I CHOOSE to do. I never expected much because I knew the type of person I was dating. It's not about permission but about respect because we don't want the other to feel uncomfortable. Press the ignition button, then turn on the gas; press and hold it again for three seconds, not four or two or you might as well start from the beginning. I am a very touchy feely person. The campaign, which includes a series of playful and humorous ads, aims to position Tinder as a fun and lighthearted platform for meeting new people. This is emotionally manipulative behavior. So I decided to grab a drink at the local dive bar that I love. Is it okay for a boyfriend or girlfriend to go out to bars or clubs without you twice a week? We J. like to know where the other one is, more for safety than out of paranoia or concerns of cheating. Not just change the rule without saying something and then she can choose to keep playing or quit. That means, he wants to reassure you that a) he didn't go home with some bar floozy and b) he got home safely. My advice - Hangout with your friends, go places that interest you without him and make sure he knows your having fun without him but don't rub it in his face. I called him at 11:30. Before telling your partner something like this, pragmatism demands some thought first to how much you're asking and expecting a person to change. Clubs and bars are places to find one night stand and occasional sex partners. Course I'm the wife who has encouraged her husband to go to the strip club with his friends for bachelor parties he knows he can get his appetite anywhere as long as he eats at home :) and I definitely reap the benefits of those rare sojourns into gyrating nekid females :). The scene you J. described in your little local bar is J. so Philly, to a "T." I LOVE that town--was J. there last Friday, and had a wonderful afternoon, at DiBruni Brothers and Rittenhouse Square. He asked it so much I feel he was thinking I was lying to him. You know the one that is filled with mostly guys, laid back and where everyone knows everyone and if you don't you will by the time you walk out and people cheer when you walk in the door? Am I being gas lighted? He is free to go where he wants and so am I but we make choices to do and go places that honor our marriage and protect it at all costs. Some men J. have very flirtatious personalities. They might give M. a hug, but that's where it ends. The fastest way to see a mans true colours if he does run, even better. Anyone that cant handle that isnt ready for a real relationship. No. After a couple months of dating I learned her guy friend was gay. I feel any interactions should be allowed but also feel that if you're in a committed relationship and someone has an issue with a particular person your relationship comes first obviously and while you won't be "controlled" by your spouse you should definitely take their opinion into account and compromise and adjust behavior accordingly. What works in one marriage or relationship doesn't have to be the "answer" for another. Let's face it - we all know bars can be totally unconducive places for relationships. I'm married. Good luck. If he is out all night having "fun" and doing all this ****, hes not up to the challenge for being your boyfriend. if your partner does these six activities without you. If you agreed on something whether it be notifying the other about what youre doing or where you are going, if you decide you dont feel like that is the right thing for you two anymore then a conversation should take place. "I guess it depends from one man to another. That's a different matter. You know he's thinking of you. The veteran drinker is usually front and center, taking shots or downing beers like one of the guys. A lot. It's okay to relax. "But if your partner has started going out more and leaving you at home, that could indicate that they've got one foot out the door. Whether he is hooking up with another girl or not, I'd question why he would be drunk often. It doesn't seem like he is sticking around for you. Looking for advice on handling a disappointing visit, She broke up with me because of my gambling, France to the US - long distance problems. J. my personal opinionto each his own. We are all the product of our experiences. But even if that's your case, can you honestly say you don't have a hand in it? If its an issue with your partner, then you shouldn't do it. My bf lives in the same town as me but i only see him when he`s not stoned or drunk. React Reply Cleveland Follow Explorer Age: 36 , mho 37% +1 y If he can go out so can you. Wouldn't work for M., plus I have no desire to hang in bars. I feel neglected and I don't think I should be treated like this. Neither of which is good for a rel'ship..I mean, unless you're going to a bar to see a band..or maybe do karaoke or something. Of course I was a little disappointed but then he got mad and I had to accept it because I didn't want to lose him. My husband LOVES when I take off to the pub for a pint and a good read. He better go alone, because I won't be wasting my time in a place like that. It was tough for the first several months because of fear she might cheat like my 1st gf. Holy crap youre a dick. He never mentions any friends and doesn't. Make out you are. No. Or am I just being silly? he'll want me to stay in touch with him when I go outbut then once he goes out its MIA for hours and hours. It is just very hard, because I am deathly afraid of being cheated on. My husband occasionally goes out with friends for a round of golf and then to a bar afterwards, I've never really given it much thought but I also trust him and am not worried. :). This would allow him to distance himself from unpleasant feelings and dissociate from the discomfort of underlying mental problems. But don't be anxious, you are good enough and I'm sure he loves you like you love him. He didn't let me know anything. My ex cheated on M. once and i had him on a very short leash for a while. evenworse I think if your spouse or boyfriend does mind you doing that, that is what is important.not what others think. Nothing controlling about it. That's different. he possibly has a minor drinking problem If it was only when he went out to have a bit of fun and didn't text through the evening, no problem. I go out with my girlfriends, usually a dinner and drinks at the local dining place. We know where the lines are where each of us are comfortable with and neither one of us has ever crossed it. To a bar he goes to frequently and before he met with you, would meet up with a lot of girls, some of which are a lot younger and they still frequent this bar. Now I don't know how he would feel or a possible future boyfriend would feel. To us, our family is our priority and they come first. Does that mean I don't take my hubby's feelings (and he takes mine) into consideration? Its J. not something we do. Short answer: yes, it's okay. Bars are not not my scene. 05-17-2012, 01:53 PM steve1282 : Location: Dallas. nah. And just a little hint (whens playing games-such as baseball- you cant just change the rules to benefit yourself). At first i let him do it until thats all he would do and i barely got to spend time with him. If I had asked questions, and made a couple comments, I am sure I could have had a hundred thousand posts by now too. However it's phrased it shows a lack of security or trust. I don't ask many questions. Usually guys will start going to the bar alone if they are starting to build up the guts to cheat. ahhh thats the one=) I haven't been there since January so it was a nice change. FLirt but come home to M.. You know? I have male friends that were servers there who are friendly and are known entities (we have occasional cribbage tournaments). It's not hard to pick up a phone even if your drunk. I guess I J. can't really imagine being in a relationship with someone that I didn't trust enough to be "allowed" to hang out with the opposite sex. Even in a long distance relationship, especially, in a long distance relationship, there has to be respect for trust to continue. remerz before we were married my wife went out with her friends every couple of weeks to the bar seen. Everyone on this site is so over dramatic! I went to sleep at 11 pm and now it's 6 am in the morning and he hasn't messaged me at all. My SIL and I have this conversation a lot as she feels differently about it than I do. My problem is I'm very, very jealous when my husband goes out without me. To get drunk. Anyways, so he is going out with him tonight, and I am trying my hardest to have faith and trust in him. Me and my boyfriend have talked about how we felt several times that we trust eachother so much to the point where if i dont talk to him for three days and i know hes at some crazy parties, i wont feel so worried and we trust each other so much that we both openly said that we could kiss other people if we wanted because truly we both know it wouldnt be real and that we love each other. yes i need a kick in the butt tonight! Hope your ok x. The Best Gifts for Men in 2023 - Up to 30 different gift ideas for your man! I really prefer dinning room tables and strong coffee though. Not all of your friends or theirs will definitely be in relationships at the same time, so it's not necessarily a red flag if they plan dinner out with one of their single friends, but if hanging out with their single friends without you starts taking priority over spending time with you, that might mean that something is wrong. If everyone is happy and fully informed, then well done and furthermore none of my business. im **** off he doesnt call but should i be worried or just let it go? Did you know that at least 4000 to 5000 of my posts were done before the thumbs up even came in. You still can have friends. To M., that is playing with fire. We don't go to meet new people--we go to have girl time. He probably went to bars like 2-4 days a week. my boyfriend goes out all night and doesnt call or text me at all..we are in a long distance relationship and the next day he gives me excuses like i was "too drunk" and passed out. She may be looking for love or just hungry for attention. To avoid another broken heart caused by dating insecure men, here are 15 signs of insecurity to watch out for. To an insecure girlfriend, she might assume guys' nights consist of heading to the strip club, then going to a seedy rub-and-tug afterward. So if you know your husband goes to the townie bar, gets all excited to see the regulars, cheers when people walk in, picks ladies up so they can feel girly, and flirts, then yes, you shouldn't feel bad to do the same as long as you are both feeling happy about it and having fun. I never liked this part of a relationship. Started January 23, By You still have freedom. It's one thing for your girlfriend to go partying without you and another for her to go without even informing you. To M., it isn't a point of trusting my husband or not. I know it might be a challenge but just say hey i love you a lot but im feeling a little troubled lately. 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